postdoc at ucla
postdoc at ucla
PhD
Atheist
(Somewhat Important to me)
Liberal
(Somewhat Important to me)
White
6' 0"
How about we… go see Manhattan at cemetery movies saturday night, and wonder what we're doing in LA.
How about we… take Ryan Gosling's advice, and go explore the LA River: http://laist.com/2012/07/31/how_the_la_river_scene_in_drive.php.
How about we… do the following, but just this once, as an experiment, for science: go play glow-in-the-dark mini-golf. (Motivation: one friend is suddenly head over heels for "activity dates"; another said she thought they sounded like a horrible idea, unless of course it was...mini-golf.)
I'm the angsty intellectual type--intense when I'm not still asleep, sensitive when I'm not evaluating an argument, a "sad young literary man" except without the literary ability, and getting less and less young. You know, that sort of thing. You're smart and thoughtful and will argue (with pleasure) when you think someone's getting things wrong; equally important, you're sensitive and affectionate and you develop strong emotional attachments that have consequences; you're ambivalent about all sorts of things, because it's complicated, and that's ok; yes, you laugh, but it's not so much because you "love to laugh" (like what, a fucking hobby?) as that some things are delightful or WTF preposterous; you're absolutely ok with violating various kinds of norms and expectations...when that's worth doing (you can resist anything but temptation); spending all night talking to someone who's turned out to be endlessly fascinating is practically the best thing possible you can imagine for tomorrow night; what matters to you, finally, is experiencing beauty and getting some things right and feeling a connection with somebody who gets you. If you're this person, I'm looking for you. I have some things I want to tell you.
I'm the angsty intellectual type--intense when I'm not still asleep, sensitive when I'm not evaluating an argument, a "sad young literary man" except without the literary ability, and getting less and less young. You know, that sort of thing. You're smart and thoughtful and will argue (with pleasure) when you think someone's getting things wrong; equally important, you're sensitive and affectionate and you develop strong emotional attachments that have consequences; you're ambivalent about all sorts of things, because it's complicated, and that's ok; yes, you laugh, but it's not so much because you "love to laugh" (like what, a fucking hobby?) as that some things are delightful or WTF preposterous; you're absolutely ok with violating various kinds of norms and expectations...when that's worth doing (you can resist anything but temptation); spending all night talking to someone who's turned out to be endlessly fascinating is practically the best thing possible you can imagine for tomorrow night; what matters to you, finally, is experiencing beauty and getting some things right and feeling a connection with somebody who gets you. If you're this person, I'm looking for you. I have some things I want to tell you.
sleep late, brunch, lament that the hardcopy Sunday Times is no longer delivered to my door, work on a problem for awhile, go see a movie (for the first, second, and sixth parts, "with someone I like" is implied)
Manhattan, My Dinner with Andre, Magnolia
Humble beginnings, irritation, college (smart people!), New York, grad school, (smarter people!; lots of intersting travel), time passing, disappointment, excitement, ravages of time; LA (beautiful people!), ???.
I can prove to you that there are "more" real numbers than natural numbers. And other important things.
Are academic(ish) or artistic or scientific, that sort of thing (you know how Jane Gallop says her "sexual preference is graduate students"? of course you do), and have (detectible) feelings. That is, they're thoughtful but emotional but analytical but sensitive. Not grimly upbeat, but not suicidal.
maybe "first-date no-no"s? or: fun (cf. Susan Sontag: "'Fun'--the American substitute for pleasure.") just kidding.
Myself, at least in another decade or two. ("At age 50, every man has the face he deserves.")
Stephen Metcalf.
serious, fascinated, alive